Parenthood is challenging under even the best of conditions.
For single parents, however, the challenges faced on a daily basis are multiplied, and the risk of not getting their financial house in order is serious.
"Approximately, 60 percent of U.S. children living in mother-only families are impoverished, compared with only 11 percent of two-parent families," according to a study by the University of Ohio.
That's why it's even more important for single parents (especially moms, who, according to the study, represent over 90 percent of single-family homes) to adopt successful budgeting strategies.
And it's not getting any easier. The cost of raising a child has grown rapidly, increasing the need for single parents to learn how to budget.
A growing concern among single moms who are courageously parenting on their own is the rising cost of food, housing, and just about everything else needed for survival.
According to economists at the USDA's Center for Nutrition Policy and Promotion, the average cost of raising a child from birth until his or her 18th birthday was $233,610 in 2015, although that number varies depending on a myriad of factors, such as household size, family situation, income level, and geographical location.
This huge sum doesn't even account for the cost of college!
For single parents, rising costs like college tuition, which for public universities has grown by 226% since 1995, and healthcare are just more concerns to add to an already-long list.
It's not all doom and gloom; in fact, there is a positive side to handling finances and other budgetary choices on your own.
Being a single parent has its perks, too!
Single parents (and their children), especially, moms, qualify for several powerful financial aid programs that married couples do not enjoy.
- Special aid to afford to go back to school | College Scholarships
- Help buying a home| Single Moms Income
- Assistance with childcare | Office of childcare
- Career training and grants | Single Mother Help
Plus, you get complete autonomy (and all the love) over every decision.
- There's no partner to bicker with
- Your money decisions are yours and yours alone
- You're more inclined to work as a team with your children to get things done
- There's a ton of bonding time
- Because you're handling it all and finding a way to do it, there's less drama
The key to financial success as a single parent: know where your money is going.
When every little bit counts, it's more important than ever to know how much cash is coming in (and where it's coming from) to where it is going out.
With a slew of other daily concerns to worry about, the last thing you need is the stress and headache that comes when you don't have a budget.
By creating one (and they are not hard to do!) that works best for your household, you will reduce the pressure that comes with solely providing for your family.
By creating a budget and financial roadmap, you'll know:
- exactly what you can afford based on your income
- have a useful guide to help you achieve important financial goals
- and know how to create a support system of people and resources to help you meet family goals.
Whether it's saving for your children's education, creating an emergency fund, or putting away a few extra dollars for incidentals, you'll be working toward meeting those goals while also gaining a deep sense of accomplishment.
Plus, instead of spending hours calculating how much money you owe and worrying about how you'll possibly pay the bills, you'll already have a financial plan in place and can instead focus your attention where you want it for your children.
With helpful budgeting strategies in place, you can be the best parent possible and provide your children with everything they need-without the safety net of a partner.
Here are nine ways to get started:
Don't be afraid to start small (a little is better than nothing)
One of the four biggest financial fears is the fear of budgeting. The best way to overcome your apprehension about budgeting is a strategy called "graded-exposure," says Simon Rego, director of psychology training at Montefiore Medical Center/Albert Einstein College of Medicine in an article on Learnvest.com. "This means you gradually, systematically, and repeatedly face your fear," he says
If just the thought of budgeting puts you on the edge, Rego recommends doing the following:
- Break down the task of budgeting into not so scary, bite-sized pieces.
- Start with setting a budget for tomorrow before jumping into a monthly or yearly plan.
- Do that for a week or two, then begin making a weekly budget.
- Continue to budget one day at a time, and over time you'll lose the fear and become more comfortable with long-term planning.
If budgeting seems overwhelming at first, it's because this is unchartered territory but soon enough you'll find the practice liberating.
Creating a budget provides peace of mind and allows you to spend the amount allotted for something (i.e, grocery shopping) without worrying about upsetting another important area.
More than twice as many budgeters as non-budgeters said they feel confident about achieving their financial goals, according to a study commissioned by Matt Bell, who writes personal finance newsletters and assists others to manage money more effectively.
Read on for additional practical tips and resources to help single parents like you budget like a pro.
Consider what type of budget is right for you and your family
Just like there are different types of households, there are also different types of budgets.
While a certain style of budgeting might work for other single parents you know, that doesn't mean it's the right way to budget for your family.
It's all about being realistic about your personality and lifestyle; choose the wrong budgeting style, and you might end up spending irresponsibly.
"Single parents have unique budgeting challenges," says Marilyn Timbers, a Stamford, Connecticut-based financial adviser who works for ING Financial Partners.
Raising children on just one income can be difficult. After all, as she puts it, "Children are a joy but they do not come cheap."
Budgeting strategies for single parents can be tricky, so it's best to break down your budget into three main categories:
- Necessities – Rent/mortgage, car, utilities, food, clothing, child care, health care
- Savings/Investments – College education, emergency fund
- "Nice to haves" – Cell phone, cable, Internet, entertainment
Next is finding the right budgeting method that fits your lifestyle and will give you the best chances for success in sticking to it.
The Lincoln Savings Bank's blog offers three different budgeting methods to help you get started:
The zero-based budget lays your financial situation out clearly, and ensures that you don't spend money you don't have:
"It's simple to do:
- Draw a line down the middle of sheet of paper.
- On the left, write down all your income (job earnings, income from a side job, child support, etc.).
- On the right, write down all your expenses.
- Don't forget to "pay yourself" in expenses by putting a set amount into savings.
- If it doesn't equal zero, adjust your spending until it does."
Balanced Money Formula
Budgeting is simplified with this 3-step rule of thumb (also known as the 50/30/20 budget), popularized by Elizabeth Warren, a senator from Massachusetts who is a consumer protection advocate:
- Spend 50 percent of your earnings on needs.
- Spend 30 percent on any wants you may have.
- Allocate the remaining 20 percent of your income for savings (or debt reduction).
Cash Only Budget
This principal is based on the belief that parting with cash is much more painful than charging your purchases on a credit card.
Therefore, if you can only buy with cash, you'll more likely to save. Research backs this up.
In one study, participants were willing to spend $175 on a Thanksgiving party when using a credit card to buy the food, but only $145 when using cash.
Other research studies indicate that using cash causes people to rethink their purchases.
Once you've decided on a budgeting strategy, it's time to get to work.
Calculate your monthly bills and subtract that number from your total monthly income to see what, if anything, you have left over.
After you've covered all your necessities, you can figure out where the remaining money will serve you best.
Consider the example of Ingrid Turner, a single mom living in Los Angeles. She is paid twice a month and almost never receives child support.
Come payday, Ingrid puts asides half of her first paycheck to cover a portion of the rent.
When the next paycheck comes, paying the rent doesn't seem so overwhelming since she already has half the amount saved.
"When money does get tight, I break down how much I can spend per day until I get paid," Turner says. "Knowing I have $20 or $30 per day, for example, helps me more than knowing I have $X per week or month."
And she always maintains a savings cushion. "When I was making $12 to $14 an hour, I wasn't able to save $100 or more a month, but I could do $25," Turner says.
Without creating a spending plan, Turner would never have been able to allocate money into a savings account on a monthly basis.
By keeping a budget, Turner knew how much she could spend per day as opposed to per week or month which helped her stay out of debt and accumulate a savings fund.
Get to calculating
While the cost of living varies depending on your location, with the numbers being higher in areas like New York City, San Francisco, and Chicago, the Basic Needs Budget Calculator is a useful tool to help you get a sense of the minimum amount of money you would need to afford to live in various cities.
The following chart provides an example of the basic needs for three types of living (rural, moderate, and high cost), with comparisons for both two-parent and single-parent cost.
The best way to improve your finances is to know where your money is going.
Once you have your budget, keep track of your spending habits on a regular basis, and make adjustments accordingly to ensure you stay on track.
Indeed, by keeping a daily log of your spending, you'll soon get a feel for your spending patterns and see which areas you can scale back.
Portion out your budget for must-haves, future needs, and (gasp!) emergencies
Pay off that debt faster
While it might seem obvious that it's important to pay off your debts to improve your finances, at least two-thirds of Americans don't budget.
Too much of our money goes to paying off debt. By paying it down, we can put the cash toward things like emergency funds, retirement, and college tuition.
Solution: Set aside a fixed amount each month to put toward paying off your debt. Pay it early; don't wait until the end of the month, or it may get spent on other things.
Cut back on entertainment spending
Not a necessity, but you're going to want to do some fun things with your children every now and then. You can maximize local activities that are free, such as at your local library, but often some part of your day—such as meals or transportation—will necessitate spending.
Solution: Even if you put aside a small amount, you'll know ahead of time just how much you can afford to spend on a fun outing without getting in financial trouble.
Start thinking about retirement
You may be looking after others now, but if you don't start looking out for yourself, then there will be costly headaches for everyone later.
Again, baby steps here. There are insanely smart ways to save for retirement.
Look into contributing to your company's 401(k) program. At the very least, if your employer offers to match your 401(k) contributions, contribute enough to receive the full match since that is essentially free money.
If that's not an option consider an IRA, which is an individual retirement fund designed to help individuals save for their golden years.
How much should you save? It depends, but generally, you should aim to set aside a minimum of 10 percent of your income per year for retirement.
Solution: If you can afford to contribute the maximum amount to your 401(k) or IRA then do so. If not, contribute what you can and aim to increase your contribution each year, especially if you get a raise. Don't forget to invest that money, so it can grow while you wait to retire.
Thanks to compounding interest, when you invest your money, it can grow to amounts you didn't think possible quickly.
For instance, if you invested $5,000 per year for 20 years (with a decent rate of return being 5 percent), you wouldn't have $100,000, but nearly $200,000!
Get started saving for your child's education
Your toddler might not be ready for college anytime soon, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be planning ahead.
If you're trying to save for your children's college, the best way to do so is to start early.
If you set aside $50 a month to place in an education savings plan (like a 529 account, which we explain below) when they're born, by the time they are 18 you will have saved $21,000 (based on a 7 percent return).
Along with getting an early start on building a college fund, there are also tax advantages to a 529 plan. Any money earned from investing, if used for education purposes, is generally not taxed.
Even if your children don't end up going to a traditional college, you can still use the money to help them prepare for a career.
Solution: Start thinking ahead and set up an account to deposit your savings for education in (you can do so online with most large banks). Two funds to consider are:
- ESA (Education Savings Account): This is a tax-deferred account in which earnings and withdrawals are free from federal income tax if used for qualifying educational expenses. You can deposit up to $2,000 each year per student until age 18. All funds must be used before the child turns 30.
- 529 College Savings Plan: 529 plans are state-sponsored education funds (terms vary from state to state). Earnings are not subject to federal tax as long as they are used for qualifying educational expenses.
Have an emergency savings fund
It's important to have additional funds on hand in the event you run into a series of emergencies.
Instead of turning to a credit card to pay for these unexpected expenses, you'll be prepared.
Having an ample emergency fund can decrease your stress, turning crisis situations into mere annoyances.
A good emergency fund has about three to six months worth of your expenses set aside
How much money you have in your fund depends on how much money you spend (on average) over three to six months.
So, if you look at how much you spent on rent, utilities, eating out, gas, daycare, etc. and discover that you spend on average about $3,500/month, then most financial management experts will recommend that you have a minimum of $10,500 set aside for emergencies.
Saving up for an emergency fund doesn't happen overnight.
Alex Mason, over at SingleMom, recommends saving a portion of each paycheck to build up an emergency fund "because you never know what unexpected expenses life is going to throw your way."
The idea behind the rainy day fund is to store at least three to six months' worth of expenses in the event of unforeseen circumstances, such as a blown transmission, a refrigerator in need of replacement, or unexpected medical expenses.
Janet Fowler, a contributor to Investopedia, says the point of the emergency fund is to avoid adding to your debt in a time of need.
"If you are in a situation where you're paying off debts, look at how much you can reasonably afford to contribute to your emergency fund instead," says Fowler.
"Even if it's only $25, this is the beginning of a good financial habit, and this money will continue to grow as your debt load diminishes."
Solution: Set up a high-yield savings account with automatic deposit right from your paycheck. That way, you won't even have a chance to "miss" the money, or risk spending it on other things.
If you're looking for help and creative tips on how to create and fill up your emergency fund, then take a look at "16 steps to filling up your emergency fund."
Strategize how you can singlehandedly cut costs
After you've budgeted for all of the life's necessities, you might have to consider cutting costs in certain areas so you're not completely wiped out each pay period.
That's not to say certain things like TV, the Internet, cell phone, or entertainment need to be on complete shutdown, but you may want to switch to a cheaper cell phone plan or negotiate a lower rate with your provider.
Evaluate your housing needs
In March 2017, the median price of an existing home sold in the U.S. was $236,400, according to YCharts.
Assuming you took out a mortgage to buy the home and put 10% down, then you'd be looking at approximately a $1,300 bill for housing each month.
That's $15,600 a year in mortgage payments and does not take into consideration taxes or upkeep.
When you think about your housing needs, run some numbers through a mortgage calculator to see what you can afford.
You do not want to be house rich and cash poor, which means you may have a nice house, but you can't afford to cover other expenses.
When it comes to affordable housing, there are a few different ideas to keep an open mind to:
- Consider refinancing your mortgage for a lower interest rate—but make sure the refinancing fees will not wipe out any savings you might have put aside.
- Think about downsizing—is it feasible to live in a smaller, more affordable home, or to move to an area where the cost of living is less?
- Consider a roommate, be it a family member or a friend you know and trust. It may not be at the top of your list, but it's an option if you need some assistance with your monthly bills.
Whether it's setting money aside for a car and gas or for public transportation, there's no way around this expense. Besides carpooling, here are some cost-cutting tips for single parents to consider:
- Ditch the car. If you can, avoid driving at all. We know. It sounds much easier than it is. But if you can, you'll save on car insurance, gas and much more. How easy it is to be carless, really depends on where you live. But given the rise of ride and car-sharing services such as Uber, Lyft, and Zipcar, you'd be surprised at how much easier it is to forego a car.
- If you buy a car, consider a used one over the newest model. If it's near year-end, take advantage of any deals offered on the current year's remaining inventory.
- Decide which additional options you can forgo. With cell phones providing navigational apps and hands-free talk, you might be able to eliminate navigation and Bluetooth and save on the additional fees.
- If you've opted to forgo the car, figure out which modes of public transportation are the cheapest. Benefits such as an affordable alternative to driving and numerous transportation options (bus, subway, train) make this something to consider.
Standard cable TV packages have to go
TV is not only a way to unwind after a long day but also helpful as an occasional stand-in sitter when mom needs to do household chores like working on her budget.
There's no shame in keeping the TV, but be sure to work it into the budget.
Here are some tips to follow when trying to save on cable:
- Call your cable company: Explain to the customer service rep that you are looking to save money on your monthly bill. Find out if there are any possible savings plans or current promotions you can take advantage of. As a longtime customer, your hope is that they will give you a financial incentive to remain a customer.
- Change your service: If your cable company won't work with you, switch to a different one. Working with a new vendor can help you land a better deal; companies usually offer incentives for new customers.
- Bundle your services: Packaging internet, phone, and cable together can help you save.
- Cut back your services: Consider lowering your bandwidth; you might be able to cut back on some speed without even noticing. And be sure to evaluate whether you really need all the premium channels you're currently paying for.
- Borrow your entertainment: Take a stroll to your local library and peruse through their selection of DVDs and new bestsellers & you'll be surprised at your options. Best part, they're all free, and can add roughly $120 a year back in your pocket (the equivalent of a standard annual subscription to Netflix.)
Do you really need a landline? Probably not.
Ask yourself whether you really need a landline phone. Tara Siegel Bernard explores the need for a landline in The New York Times, and questions whether it's worth keeping.
"Could my family do without it, much like the 38.2 percent of households that the government estimates use wireless phones alone?" asks Bernard. "And how reliable is wireless 911 now?"
Take a look at your current plan to see what services you're using. This should help determine whether you would be better off downsizing your plan or getting rid of the contract altogether and switching to a pre-paid service.
Jen Carl with SmartAsset shares some of her thoughts on the cell phone vs. landline debate:
- Many of these phones use the same network as the larger phone providers so you essentially have the same service.
- No wasted minutes – some pre-paid plans even offer unlimited data and calls without a contract.
- With a prepaid service you can now keep your existing phone number.
- If there are multiple users living under one roof, you might be better off sharing minutes on a family plan than paying for individual phone plans, even if they are pre-paid.
Be smart about clothing costs
If you're a single parent struggling to make ends meet, this category offers a lot of room for whittling. When looking to trim back on the money you spend in this area, take into consideration the following:
- Kids grow fast so consider passing on the name brand clothing and looking for something comparable in style and quality, at a fraction of the cost.
- Yard sales often sell clothing that have only been worn a handful of times. | Find yard sales near you
- If you have friends with children, consider a clothing swap. Women do this all the time with the clothes they no longer want or wear, so why not turn it into a fun night with friends. | Ideas for hosting a clothing swap party
- Browse online sites like CouponCabin, RetailMeNot, FreeShipping, and eBates where you not only save with promotion codes, but also earn money back on your online purchases.
Don't let bills creep up (and work off the pounds without the gym)
You can't go without food but there are different ways to reduce your grocery store bill and get the most for your money. Consider the following tips the next time you hit the supermarket:
- Opt for store brands over branded food. If it's the same thing, then why pay a higher price? Pass over the brands and slick packaging to save big.
- Shop the sales and clip coupons. In addition to the store's weekly circular, check out sites like Coupons and Checkout51, which allows you to earn cash back on the groceries you buy.
- Prepare a list, and stick to it. Working off a list will keep you focused on which items are essential and takes the guesswork out of what's at home. The faster you get through the store, the less tempted you might be to pick up something you don't really need. | Check out pre-formatted grocery lists
- Plan meals ahead. Thinking ahead for the week will get you in the habit of shopping for the items needed, or even planning meals around particular items on sale. | 100 Days of Real Food Meal Ideas & Resources
- Cook big. Designate a day as your "meal prep" day and prepare some additional dishes and sides that you can have handy for those nights when you're simply too tired to cook. This will avoid the temptation of ordering out. You can even freeze some of the larger dishes for future dinners. | Brilliant Meal Prep Ideas
- Plan ahead—a year ahead: Stock up on holiday and seasonal supplies like gift wrap, cards, paper goods, decorations, gift items, and more the days and weeks after the holiday. By planning ahead and not buying right before, you are guaranteed to save. Using the latest per-person average Easter expenditure from the National Retail Federation, that's $152 per year—just on Easter goodies!
- Shop in bulk with friends and split the cost: Try food shopping together at stores such as Costco, Sam's Club, or BJs. Wholesale stores sell products in bulk and you can split the cost of the food. You'll save BIG this way - without sacrificing quality or choice.
- Get movin' and groovin' on your own: If a gym membership is an expense you can't afford right now (at an average cost of $58 a month or almost $700 per year, it's no surprise!), you can still get a great workout for free. Try walking, jogging, or running in your neighborhood, and Google "body weight exercises" for ideas to build muscle using, your body (no equipment needed!).
Changing simple spending habits and figuring out what you really need versus what you want will help you in the long run. Pay attention to the little expenses because they add up.
As The Budget Diet points out, if you cut your spending by $13 a day, you will save$400 a month and $4,800 a year!
Reach out for help—and use it
Just because you no longer have the emotional and financial safety net of a partner doesn't mean as a single-parent you shouldn't have or need a support system.
One of the best things you can do for both your sanity and your wallet is to cultivate friendships, particularly with other single parents.
You're both going through similar situations so why not provide one another with much-needed help?
By turning to friends for support, you're automatically holding yourself accountable, increasing the positive impact of budgeting and saving.
We partner up with our friends when we're dieting and exercising, so why not do so when we're trying to stay on the right financial track.
Friends can help you save money
An article on MoneyTips shares how having friends can actually help you save money:
- Help one another resist the temptation to buy something unnecessary or wildly overpriced and out of budget.
- Someone to talk to about investment decisions, and a mentor who can keep you on track.
- As the article suggests, it's important to choose your "money buddy" carefully - if you both have careless spending attitudes, you can end up encouraging each other to make poor financial decisions.
Some other ways in which coupling up with friends can help alleviate the stress of single-parenting:
- Child care: it's always comforting to know you have someone you can call when you're in a pinch, who won't charge you to help out for a few hours
- The second set of hands: There are times you'll need help with something around the house that you just can't do on your own that's when it's comforting to know you have a friend nearby to help you out.
Government programs designed to help
If you're in need of immediate help, it's a smart idea to look into government assistance.
Here are a few programs to apply for:
- Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP): Formerly known as the Food Stamp Program, this federal aid program provides food-purchasing assistance to low-and no-income people living in the United States. The amount of benefits received depends on the size, income, and expenses of each household.
- Medicaid: If you are considered a low-income household, you may qualify for Medicaid, an insurance plan provided by the government. There are no deductibles and you do not pay for the coverage.
- Section 8 Housing: If you're unable to pay your rent each month, this affordable housing program is an option to consider.
For more details and a better understanding of these programs and other benefits you might be eligible for, visit www.benefits.gov.
Technology and free apps can help you manage the money and serve as a digital partner
Today's technology, smartphones, and apps allow access to whatever it is we need at the touch of a button, so you don't have to feel like you're a one-man team.
Think of your smartphone as another budgeting buddy and/or partner
In a survey conducted of more than 3,600 smartphone owners who use their phones to shop or bank, 18 percent said they also used their phone to budget.
Out of those, 69 percent said they strongly agree that budgeting apps have helped change their spending habits.
According to Alexa von Tobel, founder and CEO of LearnVest, a platform that provides financial planning and budgeting tools both online and in an app:
- the most active users they see log on more than twice a day.
- People who do so tend to set up more financial goals.
- Users with a financial plan pay down debt three times as faster than those without one and contribute 41 percent more on average to retirement accounts.
"Tracking your spending can be one of the best things you can do to stay on course financially," says Tim Lemke, a personal finance writer for WiseBread, a community of bloggers who provide their readers with the tools to help them live large on a small budget.
Save, budget, and manage your money for free
These budgeting tools are simple and easy to use, and can help you view your full financial picture. And best of all... They're all free!
- PocketGuard: Connects to your bank accounts so that you always have access to your current transactions and balance. The home screen shows how much money is in your pocket now, your income and how much you've spent. It also analyzes your spending to identify recurring payments, see where you spend your money, and areas you might need to cut back on.
- BudgetTracker: Allows you to manually track all of your accounts, enter expenditures, create budgets and calendars, and even compile notes.
- Wally: This expense tracker lets you log your expenses either manually or upload a photo of your receipts. Wally alerts you when a new bill is due when you hit a savings goal, and other activities.
- Mint: Track nearly every aspect of your financial life from spending and income, banks and credit cards, retirement accounts and loans, in one place! Setting up an unlimited number of budgets is easy, and spending is simple to track. Mint makes it easy to see what you have and what you owe without letting anything fall through the cracks.
- Acorns: This nifty little app rounds up expenses made on your credit card and deposits the difference into a designated savings account. So if you spend $97.73 at the grocery store, expect to find $2.27 deposited into your retirement savings account, for example.
These financial apps can help ease some of the difficulties that come along with managing your money, especially if budgeting is new to you. You'll know what you're spending your money on and how you're doing meeting savings goals with a touch (or two) of a button.
Now instead of crunching numbers, you'll free up the time to devote to other activities.
Break down the most cost-effective child care options for you
Another challenge for single parents who are the primary caregivers is child care particularly during the younger years when children aren't yet in school.
Sandy Wallace, a contributing writer to Care says parents of school-aged children manage a unique balancing act during the school year. "A patchwork combination of care works for some parents, while others prefer to stick with a single care solution," she says.
Use a combination of solutions to help manage childcare
Wallace consulted with experts to hear their suggestions for affordable after-school care:
- Enroll in a school- based program
- Establish a flexible work schedule
- Work from home
- Hire an after-school nanny
- Get a babysitter
- Find a family child care center
- Rely on family
- Check our your local YMCA to see if they provide after-school care
- Sign up for enrichment programs
- Arrange a child-care co-op
While these are just a handful of ideas to get you thinking, only you can decide the best childcare option for your family.
Consider an au pair instead of daycare
A big help in off-setting the cost is child support but not every single mom is fortunate enough to receive a steady, monthly check. If you do receive monthly support (you should!), or any type of financial assistance from your former spouse, you might want to consider hiring a nanny or even an au pair if you do not want to go the daycare route.
Summer Blackhurst, a mother of three small children living in Utah, who writes a parenting blog with Go Au Pair, says while nannies are the most expensive option, an au pair can be the most cost-effective choice when you have three or more children.
"The au pair option is rarely considered because so many single parents think it is going to be out their budget range," says Blackhurst. "But single parents are drawn to this program because having a second set of hands is helpful."
In addition to having extra help, which is a big plus for single parents, the cost is another factor. "Childcare rates are now rivaling mortgage costs and college tuition rates," says Blackhurst. "Using an au pair may help curb these high costs."
Not only is it the most affordable, it's also the most flexible when there are multiple children involved. While the cost of childcare varies by location, the average cost of daycare in New York City exceeds $16,000 a year with that cost increasing by $1,612 per year.
According to Blackhurst, an au pair costs less than $8 an hour no matter how many children a family has. In comparison, a nanny will average anywhere from $10 to $16 an hour and even up to $25 in some areas.
Daycare costs are higher, especially with the more children you have. And some places charge additional fees for things like late pickup.
"We had one mother who went from one child to three after having twins in the Seattle, WA area, and her daycare costs went from $11,000 to $33,000 a year," says Blackhurst.
In comparison, an au pair will cost about $17,000 a year or less and the biggest commitment comes with up-front costs and fees getting them in the country.
If you average out the cost over the year or two that an au pair lives with you, they are fairly inexpensive compared to the other options.
Like everything else in life, there are many considerations to weigh when choosing which childcare option is best for you and your family.
Be sure to take advantage of government-backed funding solutions
Another option to look in to is a Flexible Spending Account (FSA) offered by the Federal Government that's administered through workplaces. If your job offers an FSA (also known as a Dependent Care Account), you can put aside up to $5,000 in pre-tax dollars to pay for child care expenses.
If you're struggling to afford child care, consider the government-funded Child Care and Development Fund, which provides assistance to low-income families who need child care due to work, work-related training and/or attending school.
Maximize your income and increase what you're worth
We know it's hard to find the time and energy when you have so much on your plate, but there are two things you can do - once you get started budgeting - to help set yourself up financially.
Consider generating some extra cash to supplement your income
If time and life permits (and you'd be surprised what you can achieve) consider these options:
Have a garage sale: You know the saying, "One person's trash can be another person's treasure..." Make their treasure your extra money!
Get older kids involved: For single parents with older children who are still living at home, another way in which you canmaximize your income is by getting them involved.
Exposing them to household responsibilities is a surefire way to teach them responsibility and it will be a good briefer for "real life."
If they are working, have them contribute to some household expenses - this way they'll have a sense of what it's like to part with a set amount of money each month to keep a household running.
Each month let them be responsible and manage a particular budget category (within reason).
Another great way to teach your child how to budget and manage money on a fixed income.
Other great ideas to make more money as a single parent are shared by Jennifer Wolf over at The Spruce:
- Become a child care provider
- Become a virtual assistant
- Clean houses on the side
- Pet sit for your friends and neighbors
- Get creative and start an arts and craft business
Maximize the money you have leftover
As you set up your budget and figure out what type of spending plan works best, you should also maximize your discretionary income - the amount of money that is left for spending, investing, or saving.
Here are a two tips on how to maximize the money and time you may have left from saving and budgeting from Investopedia and Michael Estrin at AskMen:
- Kills fees and set up direct deposits – Direct deposits can save you money in two ways: First, your bank may waive some fees if you bank electronically, and secondly, by automatically putting your paycheck directly into an account (checking or savings) you will not spend but rather have a better chance to save.
- Lower what you pay in taxes: Contribute to your 401(k) or IRA – By putting money aside before taxes you lower what you pay for tax each year. Plus, companies that offer 401(k) often match employee contributions essentially giving you free money.
Invest the money you save!
As a single mom or single dad, it's important to come up with a plan for your future early on, regardless of how broke you feel right now.
The central pillar to achieving your future financial goals like retirement and buying a home is not just saving, but investing your money.
Failure to invest as soon as possible sets you back on achieving any major financial goal.
Luke Orlando, a financial analyst for Alvarez & Marsal in Houston, Texas says, "Taking advantage of the time-value of money now will have the greatest impact on your future. The money you budget and save NOW, not later when you think you can afford it, will have the greatest impact on your financial future."
That's because, according to Brett Graff, a family finance expert, author, and founder of TheHomeEconomist, of the magic of compounding interest, which means you earn money not only on your initial investment, but also on whatever interest it has generated.
"It's easier to have your money make you money than to work for it," says Graff.
"The power of compound interest is the reason that financial planners and retirement experts recommend starting a retirement plan early," says Carol Wiley, a writer for Smallbusiness.
The power of compounding interest
We've written a super helpful article about investing and common mistakes people make getting started. It's super important for single parents to not miss out on the opportunity to earn additional wealth by investing their savings.
Here's a look at how we explained the power of compounded interest using just $100.
If you put $100 in your savings account, earning .6% a year, it would only grow to $112.71 after 20 years.
In other words, it would take you two decades to earn a measly $12 in interest!
Let that sink in a bit.
Put your money in a savings account and you'll get less than 1% return on your money.
Put the same amount of money into an investment account and you'll average a return of 7%!
This BIG difference is important because of the "compounding interest effect."
Back to that $100.
This time, instead of a savings account, we are going to put it into an investment account and invest it in the US stock market.
In the first year you invest, you'd have $100 plus 7% return, or $107.
Just by leaving your money invested , and assuming you didn't put any additional money in the next year, you'd have $107 plus 7%, totaling $114.49.
(In two years, you already made more money in an investment account earning 7% interest than a savings account earning .6%!)
Year three? $122.50.
Year four? $131.08.
Skip ahead 20 years. You'd have $386.97.
Now think about that $100 if you added a few zeros to it. Each year. Woo wee!
The growth of the $100 to $386.95—or a 387% increase—is due to compounding interest. The money is making more money just sitting there.
As the Chinese proverb goes, "The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now."
This is how you should look at investing: It's never too late to start saving.
You can do this!
The job of a single parent is never an easy one. But by taking advantage of the budgeting tips and strategies featured above, you can maximize your income and get so much closer to achieving your financial goals.
All you have to do is take that first step to figuring out which budgeting plan works best for you and your family. So sit down, grab a pen and paper, your smartphone, or your computer, and get started laying the groundwork for your financial future.
Want more great ideas about how to make sure your time and money is put to the best use possible?
Check out these helpful guides and tip articles:
- 16 Steps To Filling Up Your Emergency Fund
- 17 Savings Strategies That Actually Work
- 12 Common Investment Mistakes & How To Avoid Them
Some of the best adults today were once raised by one amazing parent.
Who do you look up to for their parenting skills and what was it that made them a success? Let us know in the comments below.