Marrying Finances

To understand how financial investment coincides with the emotional ones, we surveyed over 1,000 people either married or in a relationship and asked them how much of their finances were shared, how long it took them to merge accounts, and what happened in the event of an unfortunate breakup.

Over 1,000 People Reveal How They Tackle Finances in a Relationship

Relationships go through stages and most dating experts say each one is an important step toward finding a genuine partnership (the last stage, FYI). There are awkward glances, first dates, total infatuation, and even the worry of uncertainty, and every one of those moments fits into the progression of going from complete strangers to a committed relationship and beyond.

But where does money start to factor into the equation? How soon should you be asking someone about his or her credit card debt, and when is the right time to merge bank accounts?

Waiting To Share Finances

Combining Assets

Financial Sharing And Support

Tradition holds that after couples get married, it's time to start thinking about merging bank accounts. After all, what's yours is theirs, right? Not necessarily.

While there are benefits to merging bank accounts including fewer financial surprises and general convenience, financial consolidation isn't without its struggles. Some people experience a loss of independence when they don't have their own bank account, and merged accounts can create headaches for couples who aren't communicating properly about their spending habits. Nearly 1 in 5 married respondents kept their checking accounts separate from their spouse.

Even couples who merge their bank accounts may not be sharing everythingas far as funding is concerned. Shared savings (76 percent) and credit cards (70 percent) were less common than shared checking accounts, and unmarried couples in relationships were more likely to give their partners money without repayment and buy them expensive gifts.

Nineteen percent of married participants loaned their spouse an expensive item, and 16 percent loaned their spouse money with repayment.

For Better or Worse

The Pros And Cons Of Sharing Finances

Deciding if, how, and when to merge finances can be complicated, and there's no right or wrong answer as to when a relationship is ready for this step. It's entirely possible for two people in a committed relationship (or even married) to have completely different philosophies toward money.

While 1 in 10 married couples didn't share finances, keeping things simple was the most popular reason among 4 in 5 married respondents when asked why they combined their capital. Sixty-three percent of people in a relationship but not married said merging money made it easier for them to budget, followed by keeping it simple (62 percent), paying shared bills (60 percent), and for added transparency and honesty (46 percent).

Making it easier to budget was also the most common reason why both married and unmarried people chose to keep finances separate. When it comes to money, some couples start off on the wrong foot, making it hard to recover and trust each other's habits. Having routine conversations about financial goals and practices can be just as important as the actions you take with your accounts – joint or otherwise.

Monetary Mishaps

Financial Regrets And Breakups

"For better or worse, richer or poorer" doesn't mean married couples don't sometimes regret sharing their finances. Nearly 1 in 4 unmarried respondents confessed to having some financial regrets compared to more than 1 in 10 married respondents.

Putting all of your money in a shared space or merging credit cards can make money matters seem more straightforward or help encourage couples to create shared goals, but it can occasionally lead to trouble too. Money issues can sometimes ruin relationships, and while not communicating about finances often enough is at the heart of this strife, sharing finances can create conflict as well.

The biggest complaints for unmarried respondents included sharing a checking account (17 percent), sharing a credit card (16 percent), and sharing a savings account (14 percent). Shared credit cards were among the most common concerns for married people, and loaning money was a burden shared by more than 1 in 10 married people.

Money matters can also come between couples, leading to the relationship's demise. Roughly 1 in 10 people admitted to dumping someone as a result of financial discord, with the most prominent causes including someone living beyond their means, not having a job, and always expecting the other party to pay for things.

Tendencies Over Time

Sharing Finances Throughout Marriage

Couples who've been together for longer periods know the way you see each other can change dramatically. Even if things don't always work out exactly the way you planned, one thing is certain: The work you do together helps define your partnership.

By the time they were married more than 10 years, 98 percent of people polled had joined bank accounts with their spouse, 84 percent had joint credit cards, and 84 percent shared a savings account. Savings accounts are one of the most important elements of any financial plan and can be the difference between managing a financial emergency and having it turn into a financial nightmare. Considering half of Americans have no retirement savings at all, a majority of married people without joint savings may not have any savings at all.

While a vast majority of newly married couples established a joint checking account within the first year of matrimony, half of unmarried couples wait six years or more before making that financial commitment. Less than 1 in 4 unmarried couples with more than five years together had a combined savings account.

Solitary Finances

Financial Support In Unmarried Relationships

Unmarried couples in long-term relationships experience certain financial concerns differently than couples in legal unions. If an unmarried couple shares a checking account, both parties have a right to the assets held within. In the event of a breakup, a joint checking account could become a very complicated legal issue. Financial experts also warn about income tax issues and health-related financial issues for unmarried or domestic partners, which can often require special attention.

In these relationships, men and women sometimes have a different approach to financial equity. Unmarried women were less likely to loan their partner money with no expectation of repayment. While women were more likely to loan their partners money expecting to get it back, men were willing to give more than $13,800 compared to less than $9,000 for women.

Money and Matrimony

Marrying Finances

How couples approach their combined assets also shifts between younger and older generations. While just 5 percent of baby boomers regretted sharing finances with a spouse, 12 percent of Gen Xers and 14 percent of millennials said the same. Younger generations were also less likely to wait until marriage to merge accounts, including checking, savings, or credit cards.

The availability of digital resources and applications that make it easier for people to track and share the results of their spending, savings, and even investing have helped make young people more comfortable opening up about money. This trend toward transparency could also be changing the way they approach sharing accounts in marriage.

When asked about shared finances, husbands were more likely than wives to regret consolidating money matters. Women were also more likely to wait until marriage to combine their accounts, although less likely to consider it a necessity.


You probably don't need an expert to tell you relationships take hard work and evolve. Financial planning, budgeting, and saving take work too, even if they're established at a different pace compared to emotional investments. As our survey found, millennials were often the fastest to establish combined finances in a relationship but were also more likely than older generations to regret merging their assets. According to our study, roughly 1 in 10 married couples didn't share any of their finances at all.

Wherever you're at in your financial journey, let CreditLoan help guide you through some of the most challenging money matters. We're dedicated to providing practical tools and clear information to help people understand everyday financial issues better than ever. Whether you're thinking about building a more successful budget, establishing joint accounts, getting a loan on bad credit, or buying your first home, has the advice you need from experts you can trust.


We surveyed 1,012 people in the U.S. who were either in a relationship or married. A participant who identified as engaged was considered to be in a relationship since they were not yet married. They were recruited from Amazon's Mechanical Turk. Sixty-four percent of participants identified as female, 36 percent as male, and less than 1 percent did not identify with either gender. Participants ranged in age from 18 to 80, with a mean of 37 and a standard deviation of 11.35.

The sample size was 1,012 people in the U.S. who are either in a relationship or married. It is possible that with more participants, we could have gained more insight into this population.

No statistical testing was performed, so the claims listed above are based on means alone. As such, this content is purely exploratory, and future research should approach this topic more rigorously.

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